Withering Away

Let me tell you a story about a boy and a girl. Everything started all well and good, they have ups and downs and the value to see each other, is the truth that they treasured. But every relationship, no matter how great it starts, it needs to be nurtured along the way. Of course, when you see the first 10 years of blossoming, they have forgotten that once the plant that they had taken care has less nourishment, the fruits it bears will becoming lesser. It is nature itself. Perhaps some might even said it is science. Before I go on with this story, I want to tell the difference between the boy and the girl.

I start with the boy, because it is quite brief, since I have no deep insight of how the boy thinks. As things get comfortable, the boy tend to make less effort. Of course, why not? All the hard work has been done for the pass 10 years, it is time for him to take a break. Slow things down and keep what it is already enough. To this boy, it is time for him to enjoy the moment. For this moment, only for him that is right and rational that see how the relationship should goes on because, it is his moment that he said he had enough of giving.

Here comes the girl. She enjoy the moment a lot, when the hard work has been put by the boy. She sees that the boy is ideal to be the one for her to spend for the rest of her life. Because, once she left her family, the boy is the only one that she can counts on, for any matters that she might face. After 10 years of being together, she felt like the boy puts less effort. Less effort to see her needs instead of what the relationship holds. She is getting more vulnerable, more unpredictable and less forgiving. Sometimes, the boy wonder, what had gotten into her when everything seems to be so good. Why would she try to sabotage the good relationship and not be a good girl to start to enjoy the fruitful moment? Here comes the truth, to the boy, he doesn’t understood the changes that the girl endured. The things that she gave up upon and the tiredness moment she spends, even after the 10 years. To him, everything seems to be equally contributed, but the back end, he didn’t know, the girl body change, the breast feeding tiredness, the constant waking up, thinking of everyone else first instead of her for the past 10 years. When she starts acting up, everyone thought she is crazy, being a brat or getting too much of herself. But all she wanted was just someone she can lean on. Someone to come and tell her that she did good and everything will be taken care of. Have the boy ever wonder, why only some certain period that the girl is acting in such a way? (not regarding period, just so some might think, but the desperate of staying invisible)

This is how the story going to be for now. It is withering away, the 10 years of fruitful moment, will have less fruit, less blossoming and less beautiful. Take care of what is in front of you, because once you get too use to it, you never know that you are slowly losing it.

“She would cough most dreadfully, and she would pretend that she was dying, to avoid being laughed at. And I should be obliged to pretend that I was nursing her back to life - for if I did not do that, to humble myself also, she would really allow herself to die…” - The Little Prince